End Up In A Divorce??
Both of us really explode this time! He was very angry just now. He called me at 11:40pm just now telling me that he was outside my house and he wanted to go back to Chemor. I used to talk very coldly these while since that Christmas eve. So, as usual, I just say,"Ok lo, since wherever you sleep, it's just the same to me!"
Then, he started to tell a lot of nonsense.....He complaint (in a loud voice),"I like to go home! That's my home! Yours is not my HOME!!! You do not know to be a wife! You should stay in Chemor with me. You do not even cook for me! I rather stroll around the town without doing anything, yet I just don't want to stay at your house!........I hung up in anger.
He then called but I didn't pick up. My son, my mum and bro were all around. I hoped not to argue in front of them. But he insisted to blah blah blah....by calling up my house phone. This made me really angry that I scolded him as well.
Him: Wei Wei is my daughter. I want her to study in Chemor. Y should I plead u to go back #x0*#xx....U dun wan to go back, be it forever...I have money. I can employ 1 maid, 2 maids, even 3 maids.....I HAVE MONEY!!! U didn't even console me when I told u that my business licence is not going to be renewed. U just blame y dun I switch to other business earlier...U try to earn RM500 for me la. Whatever u buy, eat, enjoy are all fr me!
Me : I talk like this is because I'm not really feeling good with u....u never treat me nice and care about me....that makes me fed up of u!
Him: U r wrong all the while. I'm not wrong! U complain a lot of me that made never wan to
have any intimate relationship with u.....
Me : U have mistakes too!! U dun care about my feeling....
Him: If we cannot get along with each other, we divorce la....dun stay along together lo....Or else
u stay at Chemor with me...
..............He eventually hung up.
Divorce is not the case that I care....BUTTTT I just dun wan to be apart with my children. I can't lose them! I'm scared becoz I dun have any earning power for their living....What should I do?? Am in a dilemma now....... Surely this is a sleepless night for me.
2 comments:
Divirce is not the best solution to things. But if all fails, then it's a viable options. But of cos, the tug-of-war over ur childrens' welfare must be put to serious consideration first before the final step is reached. Have you thought of that? If you hubby is financially more secured that you are, then, i'm afraid thing's are gonna get difficult.
No matter what, just remember that you have friends that support whatever decisions that you make. Just dont rush into conclusions. Money is only one of the issues that can mar a relationship. Dont let it get to you.
Try to talk with hubby when things cool down. It may take a long time. But i'm sure time is all you have, right. It takes a lot for a marriage to work. Arguments are part and parcel of marriage.
Have you ever given a thought to happier times with him? Men like to keep things to themselves. Perhaps, take the time to see of there's anything that you can do to ease his burden somehow.
I'm getting long-winded. Just think things over, ya. HUGS!!!
wow..Samm, you have potential to be an adviser. Anyway, thx a lot for your support. I did have thoughts of our happy moments five years ago. Although I always complain to friends that I want to dump this man, but when this situation appears, I feel hard to let go.
Things are getting over liao....if you have read my latest post.
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